[forum456]

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/c...y-move-out

Madam L, as she wants to be known, depended on her son, with whom she lived after her husband died about 30 years ago. Now in his 40s, he is her only child and they enjoy a close relationship.

But he, his wife and their two children decided to move to their own place about four years ago.

She said her daughter-in-law did not want to live with her. Even when they did live together, her daughter-in-law, a quiet person, barely spoke to her.

To make things worse, she suffered from arthritis and found walking painful until she had knee replacement surgery. 

She retired as a cleaner in her 60s after she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Most of her friends have died or are too frail to visit her.

“I told my son that if one day I can no longer walk, I will live in an old folks’ home as I don’t want to burden him. He is married and he has to take care of his own family,” she added.

[Harry Lee]

She should sell her house and then move to a nursing home. Whatever balance money should donate to charity. Not a cent should go to the unfilial son and dil

[[[ForeverAlone]]]

She should sell her house and then move to a nursing home. Whatever balance money should donate to charity. Not a cent should go to the unfilial son and dil

Maybe her son can't even earn much still got family to feed?

[Harry Lee]

Maybe her son can't even earn much still got family to feed?

Got money to move out and let the elderly mother live alone

[sgh]

Got money to move out and let the elderly mother live alone

In Spore there is a Parents Maintenance Act which if she wants can pursue but I think from the post she dun wanna burden for son so not pursuing I guess

[hansamu]

Got a daughter in law but loses a son.
Sad....

[[[ForeverAlone]]]

So having kids also a " gamble " but some claim is a " lifecycle mission "

[limpeh394]

ask social worker to help get her a place a affordable nursing home (but vacancy is few and long waiting time)
Else could easily get one good one in JB between SGD $1000 - $1200, 5 meals  good quality care who knows how to take good care aging sick, better than maid.
if she own the house, get her son to lease out the rooms/whole place to help pay for the JB nursing home.
and I believe Gov also pay her mthly comcare $450.
I would self check into JB nursing home when the days come like this man
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/h...sing-homes

[hansamu]

This is just one story  ....there are millions of other similar or even sadder stories out in this world. 

Endless....until the day one passes on.

[sgh]

So having kids also a " gamble " but some claim is a " lifecycle mission "

It is a gamble definitely

[grotesqueness]

This is just one story  ....there are millions of other similar or even sadder stories out in this world. 

Endless....until the day one passes on.

in the end

it is still alone forever

[singlon]

look on the bright side
she got resources there r solutions and ways to deal with problems.
i guess she a woman unlike man like the milk-cows we have to deal with while milking them.
for singlon it is heaven i will call the shots.
if i need help they have to provide for a short time only

[surfer]

She should sell her house and then move to a nursing home. Whatever balance money should donate to charity. Not a cent should go to the unfilial son and dil

Agree with what you've posted. 

[Bluebull]

Maybe her son can't even earn much still got family to feed?

THATS BESIDE THE POINT!
There’s a powerful Chinese story....
Even if you have only four sweet potatoes left
You give one to your wife, two to your two children
The last one you give half to yourself and half to your mother
Because it’s your mother that in many ways make this four sweet potatoes possible

[debono]

She should sell her house and then move to a nursing home. Whatever balance money should donate to charity. Not a cent should go to the unfilial son and dil

I think you have a good suggestion. Pity the old widow, I suspect the old widow cannot get along with the D-I-L...........

[sclim]

this type of event will become the norm. many are not married.
it is difficult for people to live with people when there is hardly any relationshio except that the other is related via a third party. the partner.
there is a need for retirement care for individual staying in their own home.
with community service. with social interactions, as these will likely not be profitable to operate so it will fall on the government as a service provider. cost recover thru tax.

[SeewhatLook]

z generaton getting more more selfish more materialistic.More rich lonely ah gong ah ma later years

[debono]

z generaton getting more more selfish more materialistic.More rich lonely ah gong ah ma later years

If rich ah gong ah ma not so bad, it is the widowed and poor ones that are pitiful...........they cannot afford to stay in nursing homes........