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02-11-2022, 08:25 AM
By LEANNE ITALIE
yesterday
NEW YORK (AP) — Embracing without permission. Disparaging one parent in front of children struggling with divorce. Flaunting privilege. Being a bad listener or, worse, a terrible loser.
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The grande dame of all things manners died in 1960, but two of her descendants have overhauled her book of tips for the 21st century to mark the centennial of the first edition.
“I think mostly that it’s really easy to paint etiquette and manners as tools for elitism, tools for secrecy, tools for exclusion,” said Lizzie Post, Emily’s great-great-granddaughter and co-author of the latest “Emily Post’s Etiquette.”
“And when they are used that way, and they definitely can be, they are effectively useless. But when we’re using etiquette and manners as a tool for self-reflection and awareness of others, I think we’re really going to have a chance to make the world a nicer place,” she said.
As incivility has taken an even stronger hold on the culture, the newfangled book encourages patience and humility in talking over difficult subjects. That, it notes, requires “getting comfortable with the idea that your brilliant remark could go unsaid.” The book also pleads for grace in losing and a “good apology,” avoiding the word “if” to neutralize the effort, or “but” to dig your hole deeper.
Much more at: https://apnews.com/article/books-emily-p...ec50474125
yesterday
NEW YORK (AP) — Embracing without permission. Disparaging one parent in front of children struggling with divorce. Flaunting privilege. Being a bad listener or, worse, a terrible loser.
......
The grande dame of all things manners died in 1960, but two of her descendants have overhauled her book of tips for the 21st century to mark the centennial of the first edition.
“I think mostly that it’s really easy to paint etiquette and manners as tools for elitism, tools for secrecy, tools for exclusion,” said Lizzie Post, Emily’s great-great-granddaughter and co-author of the latest “Emily Post’s Etiquette.”
“And when they are used that way, and they definitely can be, they are effectively useless. But when we’re using etiquette and manners as a tool for self-reflection and awareness of others, I think we’re really going to have a chance to make the world a nicer place,” she said.
As incivility has taken an even stronger hold on the culture, the newfangled book encourages patience and humility in talking over difficult subjects. That, it notes, requires “getting comfortable with the idea that your brilliant remark could go unsaid.” The book also pleads for grace in losing and a “good apology,” avoiding the word “if” to neutralize the effort, or “but” to dig your hole deeper.
Much more at: https://apnews.com/article/books-emily-p...ec50474125
