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If you examine the lives of people they are often brought down by 3 things lust(sex), gambling (casino, forex, futures) or substance abuse(alcohol, drugs). In recent years gaming addiction has become prevalent among teens.

Being able to control yourself makes a substantial difference to your life. Look at Bill Gates , his legacy would have been so much better if he had been able to control his lust. Although he did not completely destroy his life like many who fell into addiction ..his marriage is ruined and reputation damaged. For a person who has achieved so much why was it so difficult to control? The answer is evolution and pleasure mechanism.

Why is such a simple thing like soccer bettjng so addictive until people lose their life savings. Or why lust is so strong even most powerful men like Clinton fell into its trap. It is all in the biological programming of your brain. Like insects being attracted to UV light that can be used to trap them.

Having observed others and the trouble they brought to themselves. I became curious of the solution early on in life.

One day I attended a talk by the Buddhist association given by an English speaking monk. Later I asked him how is it that monks can resist the temptations of the flesh, for sumptuous food and various addictions.

He reply is that one can observe what your own mind is doing. Its tendencies and its susceptibility to distraction and control it. 

To understand this you have understand we are like robots programmed by nature. e. We are programmed to procreate hence lust after opposite sex. There is an endorphins system that secrete pleasure chemicals when we win at gambling take drugs that make us return to repeat hence addiction. Some parts of the programming like eating sleeping etc is necessary for survival other parts have not adapted to changes in the world. There were no online games and casinos and brain never evolved to handle these. 

To patch the flaws of our mental programming, the Buddhists created what is known as Mindfulness Meditation

https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindf...g-started/

One you understand your weakness this tool can be used to discipline your mind address your flaws. It can help to improve your "programming" and fix many problems.

The science of the mind and behavior is very interesting. Knowing how you think and how you form thoughts in your mind can aid your progress in life.

I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
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Better dun anyhow meditate. Without knowing you might ended with kundalini syndrome like that author Krishnan Gopal. 
Just show them pictures that their habits can led them to become homeless, cardboard collectors or suicides...... Rolleyes

 Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge
                    Carl Jung
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(22-09-2021, 01:29 PM)Huliwang Wrote:  Better dun anyhow meditate. Without knowing you might ended with kundalini syndrome like that author Krishnan Gopal. 
Just show them pictures that their habits can led them to become homeless, cardboard collectors or suicides...... Rolleyes
Don't believe kundalini
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Mindfulness on the other has good scientific basis as a practice. They now teach it in university psychology classes.

Here is a scientist discussing all the scientific research on mindfulness but Buddhist masters have used it for centuries


I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
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(22-09-2021, 01:21 PM)sgbuffett Wrote:  To patch the flaws of our mental programming, the Buddhists created what is known as Mindfulness Meditation

https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindf...g-started/

One you understand your weakness this tool can be used to discipline your mind address your flaws. It can help to improve your "programming" and fix many problems.

The science of the mind and behavior is very interesting. Knowing how you think and how you form thoughts in your mind can aid your progress in life.

There are cases of Buddhist monks or abbots sacked due to lust and money matters.
The RENCI hospital monk who was an abbot is a a good example.
It means Buddhist teachings are not good enough.

Even PAP teaching also failed due to 2 PAP MPs involved in extra marital affairs.

What is the next alternative ?
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I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
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(22-09-2021, 01:51 PM)forum456 Wrote:  There are cases of Buddhist monks or abbots sacked due to lust and money matters.
The RENCI hospital monk who was an abbot is a a good example.
It means Buddhist teachings are not good enough.

Even PAP teaching also failed due to 2 PAP MPs involved in extra marital affairs.

What is the next alternative ?

That is because they failed in discipline of their mind and fall prey to lust and greed...

But these are minority...

I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
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#7

dont anyhow wake the serpent at the base chakra
if u have many blocks along the chakra pathway to the crown
u will go insane
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(22-09-2021, 01:53 PM)sgbuffett Wrote:  That is because they failed in discipline of their mind and fall prey to lust and greed...

But these are minority...

if abbot of a buddhist association failed to discipline his mind, how can thousands of his followers and disciples discipline their minds ?
the abbot is supposed to be the master of discipline of mind.
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(22-09-2021, 01:51 PM)forum456 Wrote:  There are cases of Buddhist monks or abbots sacked due to lust and money matters.
The RENCI hospital monk who was an abbot is a a good example.
It means Buddhist teachings are not good enough.

Even PAP teaching also failed due to 2 PAP MPs involved in extra marital affairs.

What is the next alternative ?

U cannot use one case to justify your fantasy. If so, the world is hopeless.


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(22-09-2021, 01:39 PM)sgbuffett Wrote:  Don't believe kundalini
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Mindfulness on the other has good scientific basis as a practice. They now teach it in university psychology classes.

Here is a scientist discussing all the scientific research on mindfulness but Buddhist masters have used it for centuries

Better dun anyhow go learn rubbish from YouTube by so call professors who never meditate more than 10 days in their life.
Listen to me, I have seen monks, daoists and yogis gone mad during my stay in Buddhist temples, Daoist schools and yoga ashrams...... Rolleyes

 Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge
                    Carl Jung
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#11

Devil life without lust, gambling and alcohol is not called living..but to each his own
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(22-09-2021, 02:03 PM)Niubee Wrote:  U cannot use one case to justify your fantasy. If so, the world is hopeless.

below are more cases.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/06/world...ering.html

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/08/02/asia/...index.html

https://www.ucanews.com/news/misbehaving...hism/88439

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-49505098

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/b...rostitutes

https://mothership.sg/2019/11/leong-san-...rostitute/
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(22-09-2021, 02:14 PM)forum456 Wrote:  below are more cases.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/06/world...ering.html

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/08/02/asia/...index.html

https://www.ucanews.com/news/misbehaving...hism/88439

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-49505098

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/b...rostitutes

https://mothership.sg/2019/11/leong-san-...rostitute/

I am Not saying there isn't. We can also easily find thousands of good monks or nuns or pastors.

If you choose to see the negative, u will find a lot.


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#14

What is good and what is bad?

True good? True bad?

Don't play God and judge.

Don't bother judging others or even self.

Be charitable, be kind be pleasant.

Good enough to pass will do. And don't ask me what's the passing marks. Lol
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The BUDDHA taught only one thing.
THE END TO SUFFERING.
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(22-09-2021, 02:14 PM)forum456 Wrote:  below are more cases.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/06/world...ering.html

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/08/02/asia/...index.html

https://www.ucanews.com/news/misbehaving...hism/88439

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-49505098

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/b...rostitutes

https://mothership.sg/2019/11/leong-san-...rostitute/

Just because there exist bad monks does not mean all monks are bad. In fact the unfaithful climb all the way up by pretending to be pious....Bible already warn.."even the devil can quote scripture"...many fake pastors in it for the money and make it all the way to top.
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(22-09-2021, 01:51 PM)forum456 Wrote:  There are cases of Buddhist monks or abbots sacked due to lust and money matters.
The RENCI hospital monk who was an abbot is a a good example.
It means Buddhist teachings are not good enough.

Even PAP teaching also failed due to 2 PAP MPs involved in extra marital affairs.

What is the next alternative ?

Do you know 1 good teaching about Buddhism is everybody is a God(神人) and we are blinded by our bad habits(三毒) and lose our 10 supernatural powers. Once you start to clear your thought and mind you will slowly gain back the 10 Supernatural powers. Once you have gained back the last Supernatural power, you will be out from  reincarnation cycle.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"
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#18

addiction to rich uncle aso got
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(22-09-2021, 04:17 PM)RiseofAsia Wrote:  Do you know 1 good teaching about Buddhism is everybody is a God(神人) and we are blinded by our bad habits(三毒) and lose our 10 supernatural powers. Once you start to clear your thought and mind you will slowly gain back the 10 Supernatural powers. Once you have gained back the last Supernatural power, you will be out from  reincarnation cycle.

Wah, so powerful ah? What sutta teaches that?...... Thinking

 Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge
                    Carl Jung
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(22-09-2021, 05:31 PM)Huliwang Wrote:  Wah, so powerful ah? What sutta teaches that?...... Thinking
First supernatural power.
天眼通。
Total got 10.

You know mandarin?

https://youtu.be/-7b66bEfjQY

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"
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(22-09-2021, 05:41 PM)RiseofAsia Wrote:  First supernatural power.
天眼通。
Total got 10.

You know mandarin?

https://youtu.be/-7b66bEfjQY
Din know about this. This old monk must have supernatural power........ Laughing

 Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge
                    Carl Jung
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(22-09-2021, 05:47 PM)Huliwang Wrote:  Din know about this. This old monk must have supernatural power........ Laughing

Dont know?
天眼通 is only the beginner level
天眼明 is the expert level. Can see 九重天 if I did not remember wrongly.
I think 宏船 got 天眼通?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_Choon

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"
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