[forum456]

My aunt told my uncle (her brother) that my mom (their sister) is stingy because she only gives her $800 per month, and my mom is tardy because she doesn't always remember to transfer the money by the 1st or 2nd of the month. Since my aunt's own adult children do not give her any money, it is untrue and unreasonable to label the person giving her $800 per month as "stingy". So that is untrue. Her children also echo her sentiments and make envious comments about where we live and the model of cars we drive etc. When we get into conversations about where we live, work and holiday, they later commented that we are very "materialistic" etc. I won't go into specifics.  

think you are oversensitive.
stingy is different for different people, it is not untrue or unreasonable.
it depends on giver and taker.
if your mom has no issue, you should not overact.
it is not talking bad.

just like someone labels someone as kiasi or kiasu, it is not talking bad.
it is just a personal or negative comments.

similarly, i think PAP govt is stingy with CDC vouchers of 500.
i am not talking bad of the govt.

[EvertonDiehard]

Family problem, i think is quite abit substantial amount, and they are still not happy...gappy.

It is my aunt's perception since my mom lives in a landed property. It was purchased in the 1970s when prices were reasonable. Even though my parents are retirees, my aunt and her children believe that she can afford to give much more than $800 monthly. It is perception at odds with reality. 

[EvertonDiehard]

think you are oversensitive.
stingy is different for different people, it is not untrue or unreasonable.
it depends on giver and taker.
if your mom has no issue, you should not overact.
it is not talking bad.
just like someone labels someone as kiasi or kiasu, it is not talking bad.
it is just a personal or negative comments.
similarly, i think PAP govt is stingy with CDC vouchers of 500.
i am not talking bad of the govt.

We can agree to disagree.

[Tee tiong huat]

My sentiments exactly! When the Govt gives CDC vouchers which are taken from the tax we pay them, S'poreans are so thankful to the govt. My mom has never gotten any $ from my aunt, but hands her $800 every month when my cousins give their mother nothing. How can that aunt call her elder sister "stingy"? Does she expect $2,000 every month from her long retired sister?   

Hope rest on oneself to see the real you. 

[Hope]

you are slandering 



Psalm 50:20

“You sit and speak against your brother;
You slander your own mother’s son

Leviticus 19:16

You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor; I am the Lord.

Ephesians 4:31-32: "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice" 

[EvertonDiehard]

stingy is different for different people, it is not untrue or unreasonable. it depends on giver and taker. if your mom has no issue, you should not overact. it is not talking bad. just like someone labels someone as kiasi or kiasu, it is not talking bad. it is just a personal or negative comments.
similarly, i think PAP govt is stingy with CDC vouchers of 500. i am not talking bad of the govt.

If your poor relative knows you live in a bungalow, drive a BMW and earn a substantial pay as a professional, but goes around telling others that you are a scammer, corrupt and dishonest, isn't that talking bad about you? 

[EvertonDiehard]

you are slandering Psalm 50:20 “You sit and speak against your brother; You slander your own mother’s son Leviticus 19:16  You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor; I am the Lord. Ephesians 4:31-32: "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice" 

Do not misquote scriptures to malign a person you consider an "infidel".

[pinkpanther]

you are slandering 



Psalm 50:20

“You sit and speak against your brother;
You slander your own mother’s son

Leviticus 19:16

You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor; I am the Lord.

Ephesians 4:31-32: "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice" 

Hope...why are you referring to the Bible?
Quran doesn't have the verses? 

[forum456]

We can agree to disagree.

agree.

[pinkpanther]

Do not misquote scriptures to malign your fellow believer.

Hope is a Moslem! 
He is a fast learner....he already knows how to use the Biblical verses already
You can return him back with Quranic verses..

[EvertonDiehard]

Hope...why are you referring to the Bible? Quran doesn't have the verses?  

Hope is hopeless?

[Hope]

Do not misquote scriptures to malign your fellow believer.

Those verses are about slandering.
You’re slandering here.

[forum456]

If your poor relative knows you live in a bungalow, drive a BMW and earn a substantial pay as a professional, but goes around telling others that you are a scammer, corrupt and dishonest, isn't that talking bad about you? 

in this case, this is talking bad and you can sue the person for defamation because there is no such thing

if the person says you are stingy or materialistic, it is not talking bad, just negative comments or personal opinion

another example is someone says you are ugly, this is not talking bad. it is a personal opinion.

[EvertonDiehard]

Hope is a Moslem! He is a fast learner....he already knows how to use the Biblical verses already You can return him back with Quranic verses.

It is a fact that even satan knows the Scriptures. Psalm 91:11–12 was quoted by satan when he tempted Jesus in the desert (Matthew 4:6). Of course, he misapplied it for his own evil purposes. In no way do these verses mean that believers should put themselves in unnecessary danger.

[pinkpanther]

Hope is hopeless?

Hope is as Sahih as your nemesis Ali Imran

[Tee tiong huat]

Apart from FD and some insurance retirement plans, my mom relies on an allowance from my siblings and me. So the irony is that my aunt is NOT receiving an allowance from her own children, but getting a cut from my mom's allowance from my siblings and me. She evens complains that $800 per month from my mom who is long retired, is not enough.

Glossary of Buddhism.
The Eightfold Path consists of eight practices:
1) ✓right view...😌 First.
2) right resolve,
3) ✓right speech, 
4) right conduct,
5) ✓right livelihood,
6) right effort,
7) right mindfulness & 
8) right samadhi
Starting with best way to practice the Eightfold. Starting with Path in your every day life is to keep it simple & ✓path begins with (1) Right View, or call it Appropriate or Accurate View

[EvertonDiehard]

in this case, this is talking bad and you can sue the person for defamation because there is no such thing if the person says you are stingy or materialistic, it is not talking bad, just negative comments or personal opinion

If someone falsely accuses you of being stingy or materialistic, they are talking badly about you. These are negative labels that can damage your reputation and hurt your feelings when told to others. Which part do you not understand?

[cheekopekman]

Do not misquote scriptures to malign a person you consider an "infidel".

Hope...why are you referring to the Bible?
Quran doesn't have the verses? 

Misinterpretation of the Bible is very dangerous lah!  Satan misquoted the Scripture also and Jesus rebuked him lah! By the way, why start the Bible and Quran debates again leh?

[Hope]

Hope...why are you referring to the Bible?
Quran doesn't have the verses? 

Let him learn from his Bible. He shouldn’t talk about his aunt here.

[pinkpanther]

Those verses are about slandering.
You’re slandering here.

Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12):

"O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother while he is dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of Repentance and Merciful."

[EvertonDiehard]

Those verses are about slandering. You’re slandering here.

Be careful not to be the devil's accomplice by being a wolf in sheep's clothing.

[WhatDoYouThink!]

Stinginess is just an opinion about a person, not slandering nor defamatory lah. She could hv used better words like frugal, thrifty and so on

[pinkpanther]

Let him learn from his Bible. He shouldn’t talk about his aunt here.

Wah..Hope in full attack mode..

[EvertonDiehard]

Let him learn from his Bible. He shouldn’t talk about his aunt here.

You don't know who I am so you don't know who my aunt is. You should not be a servant of satan to stir up religious hatred.

[EvertonDiehard]

[cheekopekman]

You don't know who I am so you don't know who my aunt is. You should not be a servant of satan to stir up religious hatred.

Put out the small fire   before it gets bigger lah!

[forum456]

If someone falsely accuses you of being stingy or materialistic, they are talking badly about you. These are negative labels that can damage your reputation and hurt your feelings when told to others. Which part do you not understand?

stingy or materialistic or ugly are personal comments.
different people have different standards.
it is not falsely accused.
it is true for some and false for some.

if you care about anyone who says you are stingy or materialistic ,you either do not have confidence in yourself or people who know you or
you have too much time to care for these comments.

[Clyde]

Good deed, good karma  

Yes, giving create good Karma. But after you give, you badmouth the recipient, all good Karma evaporates.

[cheekopekman]

If someone falsely accuses you of being stingy or materialistic, they are talking badly about you. These are negative labels that can damage your reputation and hurt your feelings when told to others. Which part do you not understand?

Agree with you lah!  False accusations can hurt many people lah! I didn't do it but you said that I did it so that's false accusation lah!

[Tee tiong huat]

Glossary of Buddhism.
The Eightfold Path consists of eight practices:
1) ✓right view...😌 First.
2) right resolve,
3) ✓right speech, 
4) right conduct,
5) ✓right livelihood,
6) right effort,
7) right mindfulness & 
8) right samadhi
Starting with best way to practice the Eightfold. Starting with Path in your every day life is to keep it simple & ✓path begins with (1) Right View, or call it Appropriate or Accurate View

FOR THOSE WHO ARE to retiring or 60 yrs OLD and ABOVE PLEASE READ THIS.

This is for you to read info. 

I really like what is said here & am going to try my best to follow. Thank to the person who wrote this. May God bless us all as we strive to be blessing to others at this age, especially to our children. LW
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🚩Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children & grandchildren, & don't feel bad spending your money on yourself. You've taken care of them for many years, you've taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter, and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.
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🚩ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read news or papers, watch a video news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised at what old friends you'll meet.
🚩Respect younger generation their opinions. They may not have the same ideas as you, but they are the future, will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, try to remind them that yesterday's wisdom still applies today. Never use phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.
🚩Some people embrace their golden years,
others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you & your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you feel older and harder to be around.
🚩Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs. You need yours. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live by yourself
🚩Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a kitchen garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf or even a new car..
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Don't worry... be happy. 🥰
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