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My aunt told my uncle (her brother) that my mom (their sister) is stingy because she only gives her $800 per month, and my mom is tardy because she doesn't always remember to transfer the money by the 1st or 2nd of the month. Since my aunt's own adult children do not give her any money, it is untrue and unreasonable to label the person giving her $800 per month as "stingy". So that is untrue. Her children also echo her sentiments and make envious comments about where we live and the model of cars we drive etc. When we get into conversations about where we live, work and holiday, they later commented that we are very "materialistic" etc. I won't go into specifics.  

think you are oversensitive.
stingy is different for different people, it is not untrue or unreasonable.
it depends on giver and taker.
if your mom has no issue, you should not overact.
it is not talking bad.

just like someone labels someone as kiasi or kiasu, it is not talking bad.
it is just a personal or negative comments.

similarly, i think PAP govt is stingy with CDC vouchers of 500.
i am not talking bad of the govt.