[EvertonDiehard]

I feel your pain, and the hurt you felt as a result of your relatives taking advantage of your mum's good nature, and their ingratitude and petty backbiting. Your predicament has resonance for me. In my case, it weren't my relatives that were a bother but my friends.The trouble with me is that I was always ready to oblige my friends and help them in matters pertaining to their homes, businesses or anything. And ferrying a few of them to our game venues was the norm. I was the go-to person when the need arose, so naturally they'd cozy up to me. That was before I got married. After marriage my wife, who came to the realisation that I was being exploited and didn't like what she saw, decided to put a stop to all this. She then made me gradually distance myself from those exploitative friends.For you, it's going to be very difficult to get out of the predicament you're in because of the feelings of kinship your mum has with her own flesh and blood. This thread you started is a welcome change from the general run of topics. It's not often that a forummer will pour out his troubles to his fellows. I can see many appreciate what you're doing, with quite a few chiming in with their opinions. But this is no agony column. I believe that when you talk about your woes, no solutions are sought as you may receive comfort and relief from the process of talking. You're more than capable of handling the issue yourself.

I appreciate your kind words and understanding. Based on your sharing, I know that I am not alone in experiencing such situations. Your story resonates with me, and it is inspiring to hear how you and your wife took steps to address a similar issue. I will remember your advice as I navigate this challenging situation. I am not as magnanimous and forgiving as my mom, but I also see the reasons why she is looking out for her younger sister. Her negative reaction to my mom could be borne out of desperation since her own children are not providing any monetary assistance, and she is living from hand to mouth.